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1. Suffering doesn’t prove that you know what it means to care about yourself or others. What it does prove is you haven’t seen through your own ideas about caring or you wouldn’t be so careless with yourself.

2. Suffering doesn’t prove that you are right. What it does prove is you don’t really know right from wrong or you wouldn’t take your position of pain as your proof of point.

3. Suffering doesn’t prove that you are responsible. What it does prove is you have abandoned true self-responsibility or you wouldn’t treat yourself so badly.

4. Suffering doesn’t prove that you are important. What it does prove is you would rather feel like a “someone” who is miserable than be a “no one” who is free and quietly happy.

5. Suffering doesn’t prove that you are all alone in life. What it does prove is you prefer the company of unfriendly thoughts and feelings whose very nature is to isolate you from everything good.

6. Suffering doesn’t prove that the world is against you. What it does prove is you have taken sides with that which is against everything — including yourself.

7. Suffering doesn’t prove that you are real. What it does prove is you have identified with an agitated false feeling of life and confused it for the quiet fullness of real living.

8. Suffering doesn’t prove that someone else is wrong. What it does prove is you will go to any lengths, including self-destruction, to prove that you are right.

9. Suffering doesn’t prove that you are who you think you are. What it does prove is you don’t know who you really are or you would never tolerate a suffering self as an identity.

10. Suffering over your suffering doesn’t prove you want to stop suffering. What it does prove is you are afraid of the end of suffering because you think the end of it means the end of you. It does not.

Guy Finley

Stairs, 1930 © Alexander Rodchenko

"rather the dew on the window of the castle than the castle itself rather the flight of the birds rather burned than captured"

Robert Montgomery, 2013

I wonder why progress looks so much like destruction.
John Steinbeck, Travels with Charley: In Search of America
I am an excitable person who only understands life lyrically, musically, in whom feelings are much stronger as reason. I am so thirsty for the marvelous that only the marvelous has power over me. Anything I can not transform into something marvelous, I let go. Reality doesn’t impress me. I only believe in intoxication, in ecstasy, and when ordinary life shackles me, I escape, one way or another. No more walls.
Anaïs Nin
Miracles happen quietly every day - in an operating room, on a stormy sea, in the sudden appearance of a road side stranger. They are rarely tallied. No one keeps score.
Mitch Albom, The First Phone Call from Heaven
A dominant impulse on encountering beauty is to wish to hold on to it, to possess it and give weight in one’s life…There is an urge to say, ‘I was here, I saw this, and it mattered to me.
Alain de Botton